Can you guess what the biggest mindset block in public speaking is?
If you're like most people, you're either afraid of public speaking or you're not particularly enjoying it. And nine out of ten times, it's because of a very specific mindset block.
Are you ready?
The audience is out there to judge and criticize me.
Have you experienced this? Be honest.
I sure felt this many, many times. And this thought kept on haunting me until I finally implemented a powerful but very simple mindset shift that changed things around for me.
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About 20 years ago, I watched a movie called The Mirror Has Two Faces with Barbra Streisand. And in it, Barbra Streisand's character is this middle aged, unattractive spinster, while the mother, who is very attractive still, is being asked on dates.
At some point, her mother asks her, “How can I go out on dates when you're sitting at home unmarried and nobody's asking you out? What will our neighbors say?”
And Barbra Streisand said, “Mom, who's watching?”
This really struck a powerful chord with me, because honestly, who's watching?
This is exactly what happens on stage or in front of a live camera. We go up there and the only thing we're thinking about is what our audience will think of us?
What if they think I'm not smart enough? What if they think I'm not articulate enough? What if they think I'm not pretty enough? What if they think I'm not perfect enough?
And that's where our focus is the whole time. Instead of focusing on what really matters, we're focused on what others think of us. And at this point, most people either just try to go through their presentation as quickly as possible and get out of there, or they try to pretend to be somebody they're not.
So what do you do? How do you overcome this mindset block?
You ask yourself a different question. Specifically, how do I want to make the audience feel?
This question takes the focus off of you and puts it on your audience. Because you see, when you take the focus off of yourself and shift it to them, you no longer care what they think of you or if they criticize you or if they judge you. That thought is not even on your mind.
The only thought that's on your mind is: how can I impact them in the most profound way? How can I educate them? How can I inform them? And most importantly, how can I transform them?
I'm not going to lie to you. It's not going to happen overnight. It is a hard, hard mindset block to overcome. But with enough practice, when you implement that new way of thinking, the question of what does my audience think of me is going to come up less and less.
So take that question, what does my audience think of me, and throw it away. Replace it with, how do I want to make them feel? And that one question, that one mindset shift, will make you a great speaker.
I wish you lots of success, take care!
You're just moments away from taking the first step towards becoming a confident, compelling, and captivating speaker!