Nobody’s perfect, but many people feel they have to act the part when they’re on stage. How important is being perfect in public speaking?
Hi, I'm Victoria Lioznyansky, and I help entrepreneurs overcome their fear of public speaking, and transform into confident, compelling, and captivating speakers.
Today, we are talking about perfection. We are talking about being perfect as a speaker.
As Mary Poppins famously said, "I am practically perfect." Well, for the rest of us, we're not practically perfect.
The question is, do you have to be practically perfect to be a public speaker, or not? We've all seen them, those perfect creatures on stage: perfectly dressed, perfectly polished, carry themselves perfectly. They're absolute perfection.
The truth is, a lot of times when you are trying to mimic somebody else's perfection you fail miserably because the thing is, in public speaking the most important thing is how authentic you are to yourself. How true you are to yourself.
Let me give you an example: Gary Vaynerchuk. Gary Vaynerchuk is as far as you can get from the word perfect. He dresses very casually. He throws F-bombs nonstop. He is being absolutely authentic onstage.
Would you ever call him perfect? No! That is so not perfect. This is not a perfect speaker when you think of somebody who is perfect. But guess what? He is most amazing speaker that I've seen live. He absolutely delivers to the audience what he promises to deliver. He absolutely engages. He is incredibly, incredibly persuasive. He is pretty much contagious onstage, and I think the reason for it is because he is not trying to be perfect.
In fact he's trying to be un-perfect. He probably—and I'm making this up, I don't know him personally—but he probably has seen some perfect speakers and said, "Uh-huh, I'm not doing that. I am going to be myself just as I am."
And he was absolutely right. It's that authenticity that people are so attracted to. If you put somebody onstage who is incredibly perfect but doesn't connect to the audience because that perfection is so out there the audience cannot even relate to that person, versus somebody who is truly authentic—as a person in the audience, we all love it.
We all love when we're watching somebody who is true to himself or herself. And guess what? This is exactly what you need to do. Forget about perfect. I mean, hey, if you want to be perfect, more power to you, but really, forget about being perfect. When you step on-stage, the only thing you need to worry about is being you.
As Dr. Seuss said, "This is nobody who is youer than you." You're the only one out there who is you, so when you step onstage the only thing you need to worry about is being yourself and connecting with your audience.
You don't need to pretend to be more perfect than you are. You don't need to create this picture of perfection in your audience's eyes, because they don't care about that. In fact they will probably dislike you for that. But when they see that you are who you are and you don't pretend to be anybody else, that's when you’ve become a really great public speaker.
I hope you found this video helpful. For more of my public speaking training videos, head over to my website at ByVictoriaL.com. I can't wait to hear from you. Please like, share and comment on this video, and all the best to you.
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